We all have that one person that is simply awesome to be around.
They’re charismatic, funny, and have a knack for giving great advice.
But what really stands out is that they’re easy-to-be-around.
They don’t judge you unnecessarily or look down on you in any way.
They have a certain type of personality that makes you feel comfortable and appreciated
So, what is it that makes them have this whole “easy-to-be-around” thing?
There’s really a whole heap of traits that allow someone to be a pleasure to be around.
The list could go on and on.
But in this article, I’m going to cover the top 10 traits that allow someone to be easy to be around.
If we can all work on improving these traits in ourselves, then people will enjoy spending time with us, and friends will be easy to find.
*Be as optimistic as possible
Everyone enjoys spending time with someone who is positive, rather than someone who is constantly complaining about how bad life is.
When you spend time with someone that is positive it makes you feel more positive about life.
A positive person tends to think in terms of solutions instead of problems.
This makes you realize that there is always light at the end of the tunnel or an opportunity for a better future to be had.
So, work on being as optimistic as possible and you will find that people will love spending time with you because you’re a positive person.
*Actually listen when someone is speaking
Do you enjoy spending time with someone who doesn’t listen to you, or even respect what you’re saying?
Of course not!
A person who is easy to be around listens to others and respects their opinions.
By being an active listener, you actually care about who you’re talking to and show that by taking the time to listen to what they have to say.
They don’t try to constantly bring the conversation back to them.
The most important thing you can do for someone else is making sure that they’re heard.
The best way to do this is to be interested in what they have to say and to continually ask follow-up questions.
Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggested that people who ask lots of questions when getting to know someone are rated as more likable than those who ask fewer questions.
It makes people feel respected and cared for.
*They’re everyone’s cheerleader
Life is easier when you feel like you’ve got people behind you supporting you.
It’s hard to be around someone who doubts your direction in life and what you’re capable of.
It’s amazing how much more confidence someone can have when they’re around someone who supports them.
We all need cheerleaders in life, and we’re more excited to share our big dreams and plans with those who we know will be happy for us rather than negative or naysaying.
Encouraging people are quite frankly uplifting to be around. Compare that with those who critique or habitually pick apart your good ideas. It’s kind of a no-brainer over which you’d rather be, right?
* They’re not needy or clingy
People who are easy-to-be-around have a healthy level of self-respect, and that includes having boundaries.
They don’t rely on others to make them feel happy. They don’t dump their problems on others.
Being easy-to-be-around is about being your own person, not pretending to be someone who you’re not – because that just causes problems in the long run.
If you are solely driven to please and seek approval from other people you may find yourself having to compromise important values. Or you may notice that rather than love being around you, which is the desired effect you were hoping for — instead people walk all over you.
That’s why you often find those pleasant personalities aren’t necessarily “yes people”.
They won’t jump on the bandwagon just to go along with the crowd, nor will they lie to your face because they think that’s what you want to hear.
Being honest and true to your own underlying principles is important, and when we go about it in the right way, it’s something we highly respect in others.
When you don’t have resentment and negativity brewing under the surface, you’re less likely to harbor negative energy.